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One aspect of being Hard Married that I really enjoy is our deep and enduring commitment to exploring sexuality together. Years ago, we coined the term […]

I recently read a great book by Steven Pinker, “When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows.” I recommend it. Naturally, I thought about how this information applies […]

As human beings, we tend to live inside of stories. Stories we make up when we are little kids, and then we live our lives as […]

Something happened in our lives recently that I want to share with you. For 7 years now, Petra and I have lived a literal party every […]

Have you ever had the experience of feeling like your partner is not telling you the whole story? Or, have you ever had the experience of […]

I spent the first part of my life in a relationship with a woman who came to despise me early in our marriage, but, because we […]

Early on, when I was just getting to know Petra, we were having a conversation about her sexuality, and I asked her what she found arousing. […]

I am reading Sapiens (again), and found the chapter on happiness very much aligned with my worldview. Here is a summary of the chapter along with […]