April 9, 2026
Reading “Sex At Dawn,” a really great book about the prehistoric origins of human sexuality, in Ch 21 there is a section on the “Coolidge Effect”, […]
March 10, 2026
I often find myself thinking about how happy I am, and how happy we are in our life together. We are coming up on 3 years […]
January 5, 2026
My sweet wife and I have this practice. It’s rooted in the distinction, “To be with.” Because we are strategic, we got engaged on the winter […]
November 26, 2025
Humans are mammals. Biologically, we are pretty damn ancient, which is to say, our basic makeup is oriented toward survival. As such, we are sensory creatures, […]
October 9, 2025
One aspect of being Hard Married that I really enjoy is our deep and enduring commitment to exploring sexuality together. Years ago, we coined the term […]
October 1, 2025
I recently read a great book by Steven Pinker, “When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows.” I recommend it. Naturally, I thought about how this information applies […]
September 18, 2025
All through my life, I experienced nothing more profound than limerence. I liked the way it felt, but it never lasted long. I am pretty sure […]
August 12, 2025
As human beings, we tend to live inside of stories. Stories we make up when we are little kids, and then we live our lives as […]
August 8, 2025
Something happened in our lives recently that I want to share with you. For 7 years now, Petra and I have lived a literal party every […]