Your Gateway to a Successful Relationship
Is communication with your partner difficult or frustrating? Is there a lack of intimacy due to sexual compatibility or just a lack of frequency? Do you feel like money, stress, boredom, disparate values, or jealousy is ruining your relationship?
What if you could have a marriage or relationship that’s not just good, but extraordinary? A partnership that thrives on passion, intimacy, and deep connection—one where love is an active choice every single day?
That partnership is possible and waiting for you to take action right now!
“This book should be an international best seller!”
Who We Are
Petra and Saffer both experienced long unfulfilling marriages before they found each other. When they met they made the conscious decision to go another way and applied new principles consistently over time to make their fantasy relationship come true.
The lessons they learned from their previous marriages and the guidelines they created for their new marriage are the guiding principles of “Hard Married.”
Saffer has 30 years of teaching and coaching experience including individuals and couples and is a published author with contributions to multiple medical publications.
Saffer and Petra are relationship coaches offering a variety of coaching options to help sexy people find their ideal partner including, "Finding Your Ideal Partner," "Kink Relationship Dynamics," "and "Creating Bliss" around the country to sex positive groups by invitation.
Saffer and Petra are lifestyle kinksters. They host the Kinky Cocktail Hour - a podcast where they discuss sexuality and kink in a sex positive adult format. The podcast is in its 6th season with over 1,000 episodes.
Hard Married Book
In "Hard Married," discover how to build and sustain a relationship that defies the ordinary and lives in the realm of the exceptional.
Through raw, honest storytelling and actionable insights, explore how to cultivate intentionality, presence, and abundance in every aspect of your relationship. Drawing from personal experience and years of growth, the author reveals the secrets to turning your marriage into a dynamic, ever-evolving journey that flourishes through loving communication, sexual exploration, and a commitment to growth. Whether you’re looking to reignite the spark, build trust, or redefine the way you love, Hard Married will guide you to create the marriage of your dreams—one that’s lived fully, passionately, and without limits.
Relationship Coaching
Whether you’re seeking to build a strong relationship, explore new dimensions of intimacy, or break through personal barriers, my coaching—grounded in the principles of Hard Married—offers the tools to help you succeed.
Coaching can guide you toward the relationship and personal growth you desire.
We take a customized, holistic approach that blends practical insights with emotional and personal development. Together, we’ll uncover limiting beliefs, push through barriers, and create the space for you to thrive in your relationships and life.
Whether you’re working on communication, intimacy, or self-awareness, coaching will provide the support and guidance to make meaningful, lasting changes.
Your journey to the relationship of your dreams starts here.
Blog, News, Articles
W e called it a "Creationship," a relationship created from nothing, free from the patterns of the past.
Our goal was simple: to build a relationship that would thrive in every way.
We coined the phrase 'Hard Married' to describe the finished product, a marriage built intentionally and with loving attention to details.
But a word of caution: relationships are complex.
We all bring biases, stories, and demons to the table. The key is to make sure your demons play well with your partner's demons.
Both partners need to accept responsibility for making the relationship work.
We're going to help you define the demons and how to deal with them equally.
Latest books
Hard Married
The new book by Saffer & Petra
This is not a book of quick fixes, or tips and tricks. It’s not a hypothetical theory about relationships you can try on. This book is designed as a user manual, a practical guide to creating and nurturing the relationship you truly desire. It’s structured to be engaging, thought-provoking, and actionable.
Transformation
A love story in poetry
For 5 years, from the moment she put herself forward to be claimed, our journey has been a magic carpet ride. We lived together in a 24/7 TPE in sex-forward and kink-forward dynamic where we explored our sexuality unconstrained by societal norms.
This compilation of poetry covers those 5 years and the illustrations, by award winning adult Illustrator, Dirk Hooper, does justice to her beauty and her overt sexuality.
This is an adult, sexually explicit book of illustrated poetry.