Your guide to building a sensational relationship
What if you could have a marriage that’s not just good, but extraordinary? A partnership that thrives on passion, intimacy, and deep connection—one where love is an active choice every single day?
In Hard Married, discover how to build and sustain a relationship that defies the ordinary and lives in the realm of the exceptional. Through raw, honest storytelling and actionable insights, explore how to cultivate intentionality, presence, and abundance in every aspect of your relationship. Drawing from personal experience and years of growth, the author reveals the secrets to turning your marriage into a dynamic, ever-evolving journey that flourishes through loving communication, sexual exploration, and a commitment to growth. Whether you’re looking to reignite the spark, build trust, or redefine the way you love, Hard Married will guide you to create the marriage of your dreams—one that’s lived fully, passionately, and without limits.
“This book should be an international best seller!”
Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams
W e called it a "Creationship," a relationship created from nothing, free from the patterns of the past.
Our goal was simple: to build a relationship that would thrive in every way.
We coined the phrase 'Hard Married' to describe the finished product, a marriage built intentionally and with loving attention to details.
But a word of caution: relationships are complex.
We all bring biases, stories, and demons to the table. The key is to make sure your demons play well with your partner's demons.
Both partners need to accept responsibility for making the relationship work.
We're going to help you define the demons and how to deal with them equally.
Petra and Saffer Bios
Saffer and Petra are married lifestyle kinksters. Saffer has 30 years of teaching and coaching experience including individuals and couples and is a published author with contributions to multiple medical publications. He also has published a book of poetry he wrote for Petra. Saffer and Petra are relationship coaches offering a variety of coaching options to help sexy people find their ideal partner. Saffer and Petra host the Kinky Cocktail Hour - a podcast where they discuss sexuality and kink in a sex positive adult format. The podcast is in its 6th season with over 1,000 episodes.
Saffer and Petra have presented their workshops "Finding Your Ideal Partner," "Kink Relatopnship Dynamics," "and "Creating Bliss" around the country to sex positive groups by invitation.
Petra and Saffer experienced long term unfulfilling marriages. With their new relationship, they chose to go a different way. They made up the rules as they went along. The result is "Hard Married", a manual for couples to create the relationship of their dreams. The book documents the lessons and skills that any couple needs to not just succeed in their relationship, but to really thrive.
"I am as happy as it's possible to be," says Saffer, talking fondly about the quality of his relationship with Petra today.
