Hard Married by Saffer & Petra
We called it a 'Creationship,' a relationship created from nothing, free from the patterns of the past. Our goal was simple: to build a relationship that would thrive in every way. We recently coined the term 'Hard Married' to describe the finished product, a marriage built intentionally and with loving attention to the details. This book is your buide to creating the same kind of mind-blowing relationship in your own life.
Writer’s bio
W elcome to HARD Married: Your Blueprint for a Thriving Relationship. As you embark on this journey, allow me to take a moment to share how to make the most of this book in order to ensure that you extract its full potential for your life and relationships.
This is not a book of quick fixes, or tips and tricks. It’s not a hypothetical theory about relationships you can try on. This book is designed as a user manual, a practical guide to creating and nurturing the relationship you truly desire. It’s structured to be engaging, thought-provoking, and actionable. Here are a few tips to help you use this book effectively:
Embrace the Workbook Format: This is not just a book to read; it’s a workbook meant for reflection and growth. Keep a blank notebook handy as you read. As you encounter exercises, prompts, and questions, take the time to jot down your thoughts and responses. Engaging in this way will deepen your understanding and facilitate meaningful conversations with your partner.
Take Your Time: Relationships are complex, and transformation doesn’t happen overnight. Feel free to pause, reflect, and revisit sections as needed. Don’t rush through the chapters; allow the concepts to resonate and integrate into your life. The magic really occurs when you live the concepts day-to-day. The beauty of this journey lies in exploration, so savor each moment of discovery.
Be Open and Honest: Approach the exercises and discussions with authenticity. The more you are willing to share and be vulnerable, the more you will benefit from the insights gained. Communication is key, and this book will guide you and your partner as you foster an environment of openness and love.
Engage in Conversations: Use this book as a catalyst for dialogue. Relationships are collaborative. After completing the exercises, discuss your findings, realizations and insights in conversation with your partner. This shared exploration will strengthen your connection and create a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and desires.
Practice Mindfulness: Throughout this journey, practice mindfulness and stay present. Relationships thrive when both partners are fully engaged and attuned to each other. As you explore the concepts within these pages, remember that the past is history, the future is unwritten, and the present, when you are in action is where the magic happens.
Remember the Journey: A magical relationship is a journey of discovery and growth rather than a destination. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you navigate new ideas and practices. Celebrate small victories and keep in mind that every effort you make contributes to the relationship you are co-creating.
Manifesting Reality: This is also a book for those who are not trying to climb the relationship ladder and are purely interested in being more effective individuals. The exercises in this book are perfectly suited to applying in your personal life manifesting the reality of your dreams.
Relationship Constructs: One last thing. Obviously, I write from my lens as a heterosexual male in a heterosexual marriage. In terms of the lessons in this book, that fact does not really matter. Regardless of what your relationship construct is, the essence of this book is that it deals with the interpersonal relationship between any two people. Even in a polycule, the issues between two people are still at the root of things.
Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey toward building a fulfilling and loving partnership. I believe that with intention, commitment, and love, you can achieve the extraordinary relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
With warmest wishes from both Petra and me,
Saffer b
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