“This book was not an easy journey—but it was absolutely a worthwhile one. The exercises pushed me out of my comfort zone in the best way, requiring deep reflection and emotional honesty. The thought processes it encouraged and the self-work it inspired opened up a whole new life for me. It helped me examine what I truly want in a relationship and what aligns with my most authentic self.
I’m grateful for how it guided me—not to the “perfect” relationship by someone else’s standards, but toward the relationship that’s actually best for me. If you’re ready to look inward, challenge your assumptions, and reshape your relationship patterns, this book is a powerful tool.” Sarah B 5/2025
“I like what I’ve read so far. It’s clear, to the point, and most importantly, interesting to an outside observer. I want to know what you have to teach me next!” – Scout 5/25
“This is a fantastic fucking book for people who are coming out of midlife crisis, like you and Petra were.” – Fleishman, 5/25
“Good relationships require work. Great relationships require intention. Saffer and Petra take you through their own journey, unapologetically, in the hopes that their story and their intentionality might help others achieve similar levels of a beautifully crafted life inside relationships. The exercises included in this book help the reader hone in on what will work for them to best understand their partner, and to manifest what they want for themselves and for the folks they love the most. This book is humorous, honest, and vulnerable. If you are looking for a love manifesto that can help bring awareness and intention into your own life and your relationships, then this book is for you.” – Nili, 11/24
My friend, SafferMaster is an amazing human on a sexual journey of exploration. When I met him he was a full on dominant. In control in every way. He’s evolved into an amazing submissive. Saffer understands sex from all ends of the spectrum, and he is a wonderful partner to his own Lady Petra. Their podcast explores all corners of the sexual world and they are always curious and never judgmental. If you’ve listened to them, you know they talk to cucks, sadists, sex workers, dominatrices, and more. Their explorative journey and enviable relationship has led to this amazing book. I urge you to check it out. Saffer is a human I quote, frequently. He has a knack for understanding human psychology, especially around relationships. He reminds people, regularly, that we tend, as humans, to make up stories that are in other peoples’ heads. Most people are thinking about what they’re doing, who they are, and what they need. We frequently add ourselves in our own heads to their thought processes. This is an incredible life tip. There are so many more in the book. I urge you to check it out! – Hopeful 6/25